In What Ways Do You Cope With Death?
I recently lost my last living grandparent and her passing was more so a relief than painful. What I mean is…She had Alzheimers and Kidney problems. When you see thedeteriorationn of a loved one, you cry for them because of the pain and suffering they endure while living. Upon her death…I was more so happy that she does not have to suffer anymore. But another grandma who died 5yrs prior to the most recent, was extremely painful. I say this because No one, not even grandma knew how sick she was. It’s like once the doctor told her she had heart disease at 80, she was gone the next week. So no one had time to prepare or experience any deathly illness with her so it was harder for me to cope with. I visit her stone every Wed. once a month. I still can’t let it go.
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3 comments
Buttercup on February 28, 2010 at 4:40 pm
awww. Cry, let it out. I just lost my grandmother back in november due to Cancer. My favorite grandmother and my real one. It hurted bad too I still think of her. Sometimes you have to cry and let it all out. Write poems juxt think about what she would have wanted. Really theres no real way of getting over a loved one. You could possibly get better from it though.
ggraves1724 on February 28, 2010 at 4:40 pm
There’s no easy answer for the loss of a loved one no matter the way they died or what you knew, or didn’t know. Death is one of those things in life that will happen and rarely do we prepare. There’s a good reason for that: there is no way to prepare, rather we just have the feelings we have, no more no less. I tend to understand the fact a little better than most of my family as I seem to be the one who notifies everyone and makes arrangement. However that’s not to say I don’t go through the same ups and downs, more like I just handle it better.
I do understand your question though, my Dad died in pain, my Mom in her sleep. Years later it’s much easier for me to feel depressed about my Father’s death opposed to my Mother’s. In the end I enjoyed their life and miss them both.
bopdaddy on February 28, 2010 at 4:40 pm
that is the most destructive health problem any family must face and I know and feel how you do.
As for the other understand that eighty is older than the average so remember that she had a good and full life and was most likely looking forward to the peace of death