My Dad’s GF is a narcissistic drug addict with no personality. She’s passive aggressive, makes veiled insults, huffs, puffs and pouts around my house when she doesn’t get her way, or when she’s not the center of attention.
For instance, last time they were here, I lit a candle. When I walked 10 feet away, she said to my dad "eeew that candle is gross, get it away from me". Also when my fat, lazy cat who sleep all day sat on the couch, she pulled away and said "get it away", when the cat didn’t do anything but sit.
Its like dealing with a 15 year old girl- the woman is over 50.
She also is addicted to pain killers– her head and eyes roll around all the time. She does have colitis and kidney stones, but she drinks NO water, and only will eat bread and pasta. Its like she gives herself the colitis so she can get the pain pills. I think she uses her disease to hide the real problems.
She is fixated with her looks She constantly reminds everyone that she weighs 100 pounds and is a size 2. Once my Dad and husband were talking about how annoying seat belt alarms in new cars are, and she interrupted them to say "I’m so light, I don’t even set off the seat belt alarm."
She spends over an hour putting make up on, and it comes out looking like it was applied with a paint roller.
She asks me constantly to take pictures of her, and asks to retake them if she doesn’t like them.
She looks over every plate of food I eat and makes comments like "wow, you really pigged out" and "You’re not really going to eat ALL that, are you?" (I’m 120lbs and healthy).
She also tells me stuff and says "don’t tell your dad I told you" or calls and says not to tell Dad I called.
She is disingenuous. Everything my husband or I do, she says "I do that, too" or "I like that, too".
Even worse she tries to relate us to her kids, who are a decade our juniors and not like us at all (one is a drug addict, the other a teenager). It is annoying and insulting.
She’s also dumb as a bag of rocks. She is unable to engage in any conversation that isn’t about her kids, her colitis, drugs or her weight/looks.
The worst is that she says inappropriate things to me about my family.
She told me the only reason my parents got married was because my mother was pregnant with me.
She told me I should have been her child, which is kinda creepy (Dad dated her in High School)
She offered to stand in place of my mother at my wedding. So, instead of a wedding, I eloped this summer with NO family at all.
So now dad wants to visit again (I haven’t seen any family in a year). This woman causes me too much stress and anxiety- I don’t want her in my house. How can I tell my dad I don’t want him to visit w/o hurting his feelings or lying?
Rock- I agree. This I why I want to find I way to avoid their visit w/o telling my dad or hurting his feelings.
Danika- Unfortunately they live 3000 miles away, so its a week-long trip on a plane. I haven’t seen any family in a year- no day trips or anything like that is possible.
Kimi- I am sure my dad would understand, but not without being hurt. And, what Rock said. This woman will turn on someone in a second & make life miserable.
Lona- Thank you, but I should add, I have not seen my real mother in 3 years. She was an abusive borderline. That’s part of what makes this so frightening- Dad’s GF’s behavior is extremely similar to my mother’s manipulations and entitlement. I do think my dad is somewhat clueless, or in denial, because he’s been alone for so long.
The wedding thing was my siblings would not have shown up if I didn’t invite my real mother. I was engaged before this woman came into the picture. The GF not only offered to stand in as my mother, but she also suggested I cut my brother & sister out of my life. For real. It was ‘the straw that broke the camel’s back’ for elopement.
Nash- LOL, my husband asked me if they could stay at a hotel!!
